tag:itsalwaysaboutthechildren.com,2005:/blogs/latest-news?p=2Latest News2020-07-04T21:36:46-04:00Charles Barrettfalsetag:itsalwaysaboutthechildren.com,2005:Post/63762402020-07-04T21:36:46-04:002021-05-02T08:36:24-04:00BIBLICAL PRECEDENT FOR BLACK LIVES MATTER <p>One of my greatest joys is serving students, families, schools, and communities as a school psychologist. Although direct contact with children is the best part of my day, I also have the pleasure of working alongside some of the most dedicated and outstanding teachers anywhere. Having spent considerable time in classrooms, regardless of the level—elementary, middle, or high school—or subject matter, good teaching is palpable. Coupled with developing meaningful relationships with their students, effective teachers have a knack for explaining complex concepts in ways that children understand. Said another way, after knowing their students, good teachers modify (e.g., differentiate) their instructional practices so that information is accessible to everyone. A master teacher, Christ also did these things. By spending time with people, getting to know them, and most importantly loving them, he explained spiritual things in ways that were comprehensible and helped them to grow. </p>
<p><span style="color:#f39c12;">PERSPECTIVE FROM PARABLES </span></p>
<p>Stories can be a very effective teaching tool. For Jesus specifically, parables—short, simple allegories that revealed a profound lesson or spiritual truth—were a regular part of his ministerial methodology. Recorded in Luke 15, Jesus told a group of people who were not religious (vv. 1-2) three parables: the lost sheep (vv. 3-7), the lost coin (vv. 8-10), and the lost (prodigal) son (vv. 11-31). And although there are many elements that can be expounded upon in these stories, let’s focus on God’s commitment to loving us, especially when we are most in need of love. </p>
<p>The parable of the lost sheep contains these words in verse 4: <em>If a man has a hundred sheep and one of them gets lost, what will he do? Won’t he leave the ninety-nine others in the wilderness and go to search for the one that is lost until he finds it?</em> In the parable of the lost coin, this is written in verse 8: <em>Or suppose a woman has ten silver coins and loses one. Won’t she light a lamp and sweep the entire house and search carefully until she finds it?</em> In the parable of the lost son, verse 20 says this: <em>…And while he was still a long way off, his father saw him coming. Filled with love and compassion, he ran to his son, embraced him, and kissed him. </em>Whether a lost animal, a lost coin, or a lost child, God’s love always gives particular attention to who or what is most in need. </p>
<p><span style="color:#f39c12;">BLACK LIVES MATTER </span></p>
<p>Established in 2013 by Alicia Garza, Patrisse Cullors, and Opal Tometi in response to the acquittal of George Zimmerman for the murder of Trayvon Martin, an unarmed Black teenager, the Black Lives Matter movement raises awareness about longstanding systemic racism and injustice that disproportionately affects Black people in America. While there are numerous examples (e.g., access to affordable housing, healthcare, and quality education through adequately funded public schools), <a contents="the data below" data-link-label="" data-link-type="url" href="https://mappingpoliceviolence.org" target="_blank">the data below</a> are nonetheless alarming and help illustrate the need for the Black Lives Matter movement. </p>
<ol> <li>Of the 598 individuals who have been killed by police in 2020, Black individuals are 28 percent of those victims, despite being 13 percent of the population. </li> <li>Compared to White individuals, Black people are 1.3 times more likely to be unarmed, but 3 times more likely to be killed by police. </li>
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<p>Although we may not agree with the political platform of the <a contents="Black Lives Matter organization" data-link-label="" data-link-type="url" href="https://blacklivesmatter.com" target="_blank">Black Lives Matter organization</a> in its entirety, the fundamental premise of the movement should be without controversy: Black people deserve the rights, benefits, safety, access, and opportunities that are afforded to other lives. But since its existence, there has been resistance to the idea that Black lives matter. One of the most common counterarguments is All Lives Matter. </p>
<p>Returning to Luke 15, after the prodigal son came home, his father had a party to celebrate the fact that he who was once lost was now safe (vv. 20-22). The older brother, however, was neither excited about nor supportive of the joyous occasion. Verses 28, 29, and 30: <em>The older brother was angry and wouldn’t go in. His father came out and begged him, but he replied, “All these years I’ve slaved for you and never once refused to do a single thing you told me to. And in all that time you never gave me even one young goat for a feast with my friends. Yet when this son of yours comes back after squandering your money on prostitutes, you celebrate by killing the fattened calf!” </em>Among other issues, these verses highlight the difference between Black Lives Matter and All Lives Matter. The party for the lost son did not mean that he was more important than his brother. The party for the lost son did not mean that the father loved him more than his brother. The party for the lost son did not mean that the older brother didn’t matter. But because he was lost, it was fitting to celebrate his return to safety. </p>
<p>All Lives Matter shifts the focus from the issue at hand: Black lives are in danger, and perhaps endangered. And because of this, we should work for comprehensive policy changes that ensure their protection. All Lives Matter centers self and ignores the societal ills that disproportionately affect Black children, Black adults, Black families, and Black communities. Although the older brother was upset with his father, rather than condemning him, let’s try to understand his frustration. According to cultural norms, his birth order meant that he was centered. In other words, he was the most respected and the one who received the most attention. But when he was no longer the focus, he became angry. Based on the social hierarchy that has been created in America as a function of race, Black Lives Matter can be unsettling for some White people because it decenters their positionality. But like the father’s actions in the parable, Black Lives Matter does not mean that all lives don’t matter. </p>
<p><span style="color:#f39c12;">EQUALITY VS. EQUITY </span></p>
<p>The current climate surrounding race relations in America has led many PK-12 schools, colleges, universities, and other organizations to embark upon anti-racism initiatives. Often including professional development, sessions likely discuss the differences between equality and equity. In fact, some of us may be familiar with the myriad <a contents="internet images" data-link-label="" data-link-type="url" href="https://www.google.com/search?q=equality+vs+equity&tbm=isch&ved=2ahUKEwjryoPQvLPqAhVSUjABHS8xD00Q2-cCegQIABAA&oq=equality+vs+equity&gs_lcp=CgNpbWcQA1AAWABgxM0BaABwAHgAgAEAiAEAkgEAmAEAqgELZ3dzLXdpei1pbWc&sclient=img&ei=UWUAX6veJtKkwbkPr-K86AQ&bih=837&biw=1440&client=safari" target="_blank">internet images</a> used to contrast these constructs. Delineating the distinctions is beyond the scope of this message; but one point is key: whereas equality is treating everyone the same, equity is giving everyone what they need based on their unique circumstances. In other words, although God loves all of us with the same intensity, passion, and commitment, God also knows our respective histories, personalities, and idiosyncrasies to purposefully love us in ways that are individually meaningful. And while such love requires God to do different things for different people at different times in their lives, it never means that God loves one person more than anyone else. For those who are the parent or guardian of more than one child, because you love your children in ways that are aligned to their individual needs, does this mean that you love either of them more than the others? </p>
<p>Some of us have been the lone lost sheep and God left the 99 to pursue us until we were safe. Others have been the lost coin that God did not stop searching for until we were found. In both instances, it wasn’t that the others did not matter or were less valued by God; but the one that was unprotected deserved particular attention. And because of who God is, when you’re the one in danger, God will focus on you.</p>Charles Barretttag:itsalwaysaboutthechildren.com,2005:Post/63477912020-06-09T16:34:09-04:002023-02-11T14:54:39-05:00TO ENCOURAGE YOU: THE OTHER SIDE OF THROUGH <p>Be encouraged. There is more to life than going through. </p><p><span style="color:#f39c12;">DIFFERENT PERSPECTIVES </span></p><p>As individuals, we have different backgrounds and life experiences. However, despite our diversity, God is committed to meeting each of us at the point of our need and revealing things to us in ways that are relevant and meaningful. For this reason, the New Testament Gospels often recount the same events from various perspectives. As each record accentuates a point of view that would have otherwise been lost in a single retelling, reading each account provides the most comprehensive understanding of what actually happened. </p><p>Recorded in Matthew (8: 23-27), Mark (4: 35-41), and Luke (8: 22-25), the disciples encountered a storm while travelling from Galilee to the other side. As the winds were blowing and they feared for their lives, Matthew writes, "Lord, save us! We’re going to drown (verse 25)!" Similarly, Luke records these words: "Master, Master, we’re going to drown (verse 24)!" The retelling that is captured in Mark, however, is markedly different. Although each writer depicted the disciples as men who were desperate for divine intervention, Mark suggests that they were also slightly annoyed with Jesus as they said, "Teacher, don’t you care that we’re going to drown (verse 38)?" Whereas Matthew and Luke focused on what they wanted Jesus to do, Mark questioned Jesus. Whereas the cries recorded by Matthew and Luke assumed that Jesus could save them, Mark wasn’t necessarily doubting his ability to rescue them from the perils of the storm, but rather whether he cared enough to do so. In other words, "I know that you can, but will you do this for me?" </p><p><span style="color:#f39c12;">A CRISIS OF FAITH </span></p><p>Despite the differing, but not conflicting perspectives, the response from Jesus was the same and showed that the disciples were experiencing a crisis of faith (Matthew 8: 26-27; Mark 4: 40-41; Luke 8: 25). Like many of us, especially as we’re going through storms of our own, the disciples were surprised that Jesus had everything under control. Despite walking and talking with him, and witnessing the many miracles he performed for others, when they needed Jesus to do something for them, their belief was clouded with unbelief (Mark 9: 24). Parenthetically, if others are critical of you because you’re unsure of how you’ll get through challenging situations, be encouraged. Faith and fear are not incompatible. More accurately, faith is the triumph over fear. </p><p><span style="color:#f39c12;">DIRECT EXPERIENCE </span></p><p>Although the miracles that Jesus had already performed showed unbelievers that he was the Son of God, they were also significant for the 12 men whom he called to help change the world. Moreover, because everything that we experience prepares us for what’s coming next, the storm was not the end; but it was necessary so that the disciples could effectively minister to those on the other side. Even today, how can we encourage others to trust God through difficult seasons if we have not already trusted him for ourselves? How can we tell others to have faith in God if we have not overcome our uncertainty about what God will do for us? How we can tell others that God cares for them if we have not been convinced of this truth ourselves? After we’ve weathered storms with Jesus, and have personally experienced the supernatural power of God, nothing can challenge the reality of who God is. </p><p><span style="color:#f39c12;">THE OTHER SIDE OF THROUGH </span></p><p>As always, what we go through is never about us. Therefore, the significance of the storm is not that the disciples made it to the other side, but all that happened on the other side. In other words, the storm was less about the disciples than those whom they were destined to meet on the other side. In fact, not only did Jesus feed a crowd of more than 5,000 with a little boy’s lunch (Mark 6: 33-44), but the same disciples who were amazed that he could handle the storm, also performed extraordinary deeds (Mark 6: 13). So not only does Jesus have supernatural power, but because we know him, we too have the authority to positively affect those around us (John 14: 12). </p><p>2 Corinthians 4: 17: "For our present troubles are small and won’t last very long..." As it was for the disciples, our present troubles are simply storms that we must go through. But here’s the good news: storms are temporary. And although we might not realize it while we’re going through, when we get to the other side, and meet people who need to experience the life changing love of God, we’ll know that it was worth it.</p>Charles Barretttag:itsalwaysaboutthechildren.com,2005:Post/63361822020-05-31T07:23:20-04:002023-05-26T08:11:46-04:00LEST WE FORGET: THE TRAGEDY OF MOVING ON TOO QUICKLY <p>There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens (Ecclesiastes 3:1; New International Version). In light of what transpired throughout 72 painful hours of American history in July 2016, many were asking a multitude of questions. First, why did these tragedies occur? But equally important, what do we do now? Although the second question implies taking the necessary steps to learn and grow from these heinous atrocities that claimed the lives of seven men, it is not meant to minimize the reality that there are hurting children, distraught loved ones, and splintered communities that are still reeling from these terrible events. In no way does it seek to overshadow the excruciating pain of young people who were left without fathers and families suddenly without providers. Yes, we must be careful to not rush the grieving and healing process by moving on too quickly; but we also cannot spend an inordinate amount of time merely glorifying the problem of injustice that continues to plague our nation. </p>
<p>Even as we grapple with this critical challenge, one that is packed with possibility and promise for tomorrow, we should not deceive ourselves that the answer is simple—not that we would want such a response. Instead, we must work to develop and implement a multifaceted strategy that effectively addresses a complex issue such as racism. When the Apostle Paul wrote that we are not wrestling against flesh and blood but against principalities, powers, the rulers of the darkness of this world, and spiritual wickedness in high places (Ephesians 6: 12; King James Version), it is analogous to warring against things that we cannot see—things that transcend what can be discerned with our natural senses. And so it is with racism: a systemic structure of inequity that is maintained by some benefiting while others are necessarily mistreated. For this reason, the problem is not Black people or White people. The problem is not law enforcement or police brutality. The problem will not be addressed through the lens of gun lobbyists, increasing access to mental health treatment, or changing legislation. These things are symptomatic of institutionalized racism, which is embedded within our political, educational, and every other societal system. Although no individual or entity bares the blame for the place in which we find ourselves, it will take everyone’s involvement to dismantle a centuries-old establishment. </p>
<p>In responding to a national tragedy in 1994, I heard these words from Rev. DeForest Buster Soaries, Jr.: “it boggles my mind and challenges my ministry...” A simple statement, but its profundity continues to echo as I, like many others, seek to not only understand what happened but also what must be done in the days, weeks, and years ahead. As you continue reading, I invite you—Black, White, Native American, Asian, Hispanic, poor, middle class, rich, female, male, gay, straight, transgender—to consider three ways, albeit far from exhaustive, that we can honor the sons, brothers, boyfriends, husbands, and fathers whose lives were lost on July 5, 6, and 7, 2016. </p>
<p><span style="color:#f39c12;">THE ROLE OF THE INDIVIDUAL: IT ALL BEGINS WITH ME </span></p>
<p>As Jesus shared a meal with his disciples before his impending crucifixion, he told them that one of them would betray him—very soon. Alarmed by this disheartening news, each of them began to ask, Lord, is it I? Recorded in Matthew 22: 26, this simple question offers an important lesson: we must always ask ourselves what we did, or did not do, to contribute to our present circumstances. In other words, before expecting anything from anyone, we must consider this fundamental truth: maybe it’s me; maybe I’m the problem. </p>
<p>1 Corinthians 13 (vv. 1-8) eloquently speaks about the preeminence of love. And as individuals living in times like these, the best that we can do is demonstrate love. In spite of all that is going on around us, love never fails (v. 8). Very importantly, love has nothing to do with agreeing with others but everything to do with respecting the dignity and humanity of all people. In fact, it was love for all people that ultimately led Christ to voluntarily endure the suffering and shame of the cross as atonement for all of our shortcomings and sin. Even in these difficult days, do we love as Christ would love—unconditionally regardless of social status, political affiliation, gender identity, sexual orientation, and ethnic group membership? </p>
<p>Additionally, each of us can do something to advance the case for justice. Regardless of being a member of a marginalized group, we can use aspects of our privilege to advocate for someone else. Also in 2016, one of the best examples of this was Officer Nakia Jones’ scathing rebuke to her sisters and brothers in blue. Although she is a Black woman and is subjected to discriminatory practices in a variety of ways, Officer Jones used her influential position as a good cop to rightfully challenge those who were not upholding their sworn oath to serve and to protect. Brother, sister, you too might be a law enforcement officer. Are you speaking up and speaking out against the criminalization of Black men? And to my White brothers and sisters—those who are not victims of racial profiling and other unfair practices—consider these words from Benjamin Franklin and Martin Luther King, Jr.: </p>
<p>Justice will not be served until those who are unaffected are as outraged as those who are. </p>
<p>I have almost reached the regrettable conclusion that the Negro’s great stumbling block in his stride toward freedom is not the Ku Klux Klan but the White moderate who is more devoted to order than to justice.</p>
<p><span style="color:#f39c12;">THE ROLE OF THE COMMUNITY: THE STRENGTH OF COLLECTIVE UNITY </span></p>
<p>Through the lens of behavioral psychology, the manner in which Black men are treated in America is a matter of classical and operant conditioning. The majority culture, in many ways, has constantly associated being Black with things that should be feared and that are inherently bad and inferior. While headlines refer to White men who’ve used guns to assault others as shooters, Black men are more often described as killers. Albeit subtle, these and other practices have classically conditioned people, even Black people, to fear Black men through their repeated pairings with violence, crime, drugs, aggression, and intimidation. Additionally, the lack of appropriate punishment for those (e.g., some members of law enforcement) who commit crimes against Black men has been reinforcing, which enables these violent acts to continue. Whether intended or not, the absence of an unpleasant consequence communicates that what was done is okay and therefore it happens again, and again, and again. </p>
<p>As community members, we must harness our collective strength by organizing and prioritizing. What is important to us, as Black people in our communities? And, how can we accomplish what we want for our communities? Although voting in federal elections is important, our local officials—county executives, sheriffs, school board members, district attorneys, and county judges—have significantly more influence over our day-to-day lives. The current policies that have led to a disproportionate amount of Black men being killed by police cannot be effectively addressed by the federal government alone. Communities, therefore, must identify injustice and demand change—improved legislation and greater accountability—from their locally elected officials. Sisters and brothers, let’s commit to becoming more actively involved in local politics. </p>
<p>Pentecost (Acts 2), an event that forever changed the course of history through the birth of the New Testament Church, was the result of a group of people who were gathered in one place and who shared the same vision. The place in which we find ourselves calls for unity—not Black unity, but human unity. Let’s organize our communities and ourselves so that we can experience the collective strength and impact that is only possible by having a singular purpose and goal. </p>
<p><span style="color:#f39c12;">THE ROLE OF THE CHURCH: THE CENTRALITY OF THE GOSPEL </span></p>
<p>A passive approach to Christianity is an indictment on the living and breathing Body of Christ. Passive Christianity—a belief that God will take care of everything while we pray and have faith in his power to do the impossible—is a convenient and lazy excuse to not do and become all that he requires of us (Matthew 5: 13-16). For example, the 14th verse of 2 Chronicles 7 is often referenced in the aftermath of national tragedies. And while it admonishes us to humble ourselves, pray, and seek the face of God, it also says that we must turn from our wicked ways. In other words, coupled with praying—for justice and for God to change the hearts of people throughout the land—he also expects us to do things differently (James 2: 14-26). </p>
<p>It would be tremendously insensitive to move on too quickly—of resuming business as usual in our quest to restore normalcy. While many houses of worship likely referenced the awful events during their initial weekend services, what about now? Because news stories and social media activity are focused on other things, has The Church, which has been charged with advocating for justice and the least of these, followed suit? In the same manner that Advent is a season and is celebrated over 4 weeks, we, as a people and a nation, are in a season that cannot be limited to a single week’s cursory acknowledgment. What, then, should churches do? </p>
<p>For those of us who boast of our sensitivity to the leading of the Holy Spirit, pastors and church leaders should consider suspending their sermon series, especially if they are not salient to the realities of the current socio-cultural climate. Because the Holy Spirit is alive and responsive to what we need, at times he will interrupt our best laid plans. Let’s pray that our church leaders would be both sensitive and courageous enough to hear and follow the leading of the Holy Spirit so that we won’t miss what needs to be said in this pivotal and prophetic moment. Relatedly, as a former music director, parishioners occasionally asked me about the process of identifying worship service selections. My response was that the songs sung had very little to do with what I liked or what was in heavy rotation on the radio. Instead, I would ask the Lord what he wanted to hear. The One who is touched by our feelings, our emotions, our hurt, and our pain would want to hear songs that encourage those who are afraid and filled with questions. Although the Gospel is not a fairy tale, it is Good News. For this reason, more than ever before, The Church must be intentional about giving their congregants the hope that is found in Jesus Christ. Regardless of all that is happening around us, The Lord of Hosts is with us and the God of Jacob is our refuge (Psalm 46; King James Version). And even though we are pressed on every side by troubles, we are not crushed. We are perplexed, but not driven to despair. We are hunted down, but never abandoned by God. We get knocked down, but we are not destroyed (2 Corinthians 4: 8 & 9). </p>
<p>As a Black man living in 21st century America, I never imagined that I would be experiencing, firsthand, what is going around me. These problems should have been solved by now. These things, reminiscent of the tumultuous and turbulent 1960’s, should not be happening. But alas, they are and we must find the strength to work towards better. Although difficult, this requires the work of challenging ourselves, first as individuals; working together, with all people, as communities; and the Body of Christ proclaiming the Good News of the Gospel in both word and deed. Paraphrased from Galatians 6: 9, let’s not get tired of doing what is right; because eventually we will see the results and it will be worth it. Regardless of how uncomfortable, let’s not abandon this place—this difficult place of suffering. Let’s not abandon this place of pain. But let’s work through it, together. Let’s learn from it, together. Let’s grow from it, together. </p>
<p>Walk together children, and don’t get weary.</p>Charles Barretttag:itsalwaysaboutthechildren.com,2005:Post/63309092020-05-27T15:24:31-04:002020-05-28T08:06:34-04:00TO ENCOURAGE YOU: THE PROPER PERSPECTIVE ON GOING THROUGH <p>Nothing just happens. Yes, some things are beyond our control; but nothing just happens. Because there is a time for everything (Ecclesiastes 3: 1), all that we have done, all that we are doing now, and all that we will do in the future fits into God’s purpose and plan for our lives. Be encouraged. Our steps have been divinely orchestrated by a loving God who always has our best interest at heart (Psalm 37: 23-24; Jeremiah 29: 11). </p>
<p><span style="color:#f39c12;">THE IMPORTANCE OF PERSPECTIVE </span></p>
<p>Perspective—the manner in which we think about our lives and our circumstances—significantly influences how we go through challenging situations. For this reason, we must align our thoughts with God’s thoughts (1 Corinthians 2: 16). Regardless of what we are going through, are we viewing things from a God perspective rather than an understandable, yet selfish, human point of view? While it does not change the reality of going through, it helps to know that there is purpose in going through. </p>
<p><span style="color:#f39c12;">YOU DID NOTHING WRONG </span></p>
<p>One of the most common responses to going through is to immediately ask ourselves: What did I do to deserve this? While facing various challenges, we assume that we are being punished for our wrongdoing. This, however, is not always true, especially because God does not do things like we do (Isaiah 55: 8-9) or respond to us based on our shortcomings (Psalm 103: 8-13). Therefore, going through is not always synonymous with receiving a celestial scolding. One of the best illustrations of this principle is through the life of Job, a man who did nothing wrong (Job 1: 1, 8) yet he experienced significant hardship (Job 1: 13-19; 2: 7). </p>
<p>Because going through is not necessarily punitive, we should consider it a privilege when we experience various difficulties because they exist to make us better (James 1: 2-4). In fact, the mechanism by which the Lord develops our Christian character (i.e., The Fruit of The Spirit; Galatians 5: 22-23) is by allowing us to endure uncomfortable and difficult seasons. In other words, to grow in kindness, he places us in situations in which we must practice being kind to others. To become more patient, he gives us opportunities to exercise patience—perhaps through marriage or raising children. To be more loving, God purposely places us in the company of those who are not easy to love so that we would learn to demonstrate the sacrificial and unconditional love of Christ. And here’s the best part: God is so committed to developing each aspect of our Christian character that he gives us ample opportunity to grow until we have been fully perfected! </p>
<p>So the next time you’re going through, rather than assuming you did something wrong (because you probably didn’t), consider the aspect of your Christian character that God is perfecting. </p>
<p><span style="color:#f39c12;">YOU CAN HANDLE THIS </span></p>
<p>Also noteworthy from Job is that God carefully chooses who will go through (Job 1: 8; 2: 3). And because nothing catches God by surprise, not only does he choose who will go through, he also places limits on what we will go through (Job 1: 12; 2: 6). In other words, because he loves us and knows us, God will never give us more than we can handle (1 Corinthians 10: 13). </p>
<p>So as difficult as it seems today, you will get through this. Although you feel that you can’t, you’ve felt that way before and you’re still standing. And not only are you still standing, you’re stronger, wiser, and better than you’ve ever been! Friends, the next time you’re going through, be encouraged. Like Job, God has chosen you because you can handle it! </p>
<p><span style="color:#f39c12;">IT’S NOT ABOUT YOU </span></p>
<p>John’s account of Jesus traveling from Judea to Galilee (John 4: 3) contains a seemingly insignificant detail in verse 4: He had to go through Samaria on the way. In other words, although Samaria was not his final destination, he had to go through it to ultimately get to where he was going. And so it is with us today: the temporary circumstances in which we find ourselves are simply part of the journey to reach our predestined destination. </p>
<p>Consider this: going through Samaria had less to do with Jesus than who he met while at the well: a Samaritan woman—someone with whom he was not allowed to interact based on Jewish law (vv. 9, 27). But because Jesus has always been focused on changing people’s lives, he defied tradition and engaged in a meaningful conversation with the woman that changed her life (vv. 7-29). In light of this, what would have happened if Jesus didn’t go through Samaria? Well, the woman would have missed a divine encounter with the source of her total fulfillment, rather than the temporary satisfaction that came from physical water and her many failed relationships (vv. 13-18). So if Jesus didn’t go through Samaria, it wasn’t that he would have missed anything; but the woman—the one who needed him to be in that place at that time—would have missed a once in a lifetime opportunity to be in his presence and receive all that she needed. </p>
<p>Like the woman needed to meet Jesus as he was going through, there are people who need to meet you as you’re going through. So rather than complaining about how difficult things may be, change your perspective. Think about those whom the Lord has purposely placed in your path. Think about how you can positively impact someone’s life. Because your steps are ordered, know that where you are is exactly where God wants you to be. Although it’s not your final destination, God has placed you there for a reason; not only for you, but those whom you will encounter as you’re going through.</p>Charles Barretttag:itsalwaysaboutthechildren.com,2005:Post/63031222020-05-02T23:16:04-04:002022-05-30T21:03:37-04:00MY GRACE IS SUFFICIENT: BLACK, CHRISTIAN, AND LIVING WITH MENTAL ILLNESS<p>Life will not always be easy. Even while enjoying the peace of a personal relationship with Christ, we are fraught with the myriad challenges of the human condition. For a variety of reasons, it is necessary to focus on a very real, yet less talked about subject within the African American faith community. Although we have become increasingly open to discussing and effectively addressing the realities of mental illness impacting those in our families, churches and neighborhoods, let’s look closer… </p>
<p><span style="color:#f39c12;">A CONDITION THAT WE DID NOT CHOOSE </span></p>
<p>Having been reared in the African American classical Pentecostal tradition, there seemed to be an unspoken, but sometimes spoken, devaluation of mental illness. Even more concerning and insensitive was the inappropriate use of scripture to justify these ideas. For example, because we should be anxious for nothing (Philippians 4: 6; New King James Version), anxiety, therefore, was [subjectively judged to be] “not of God.” Albeit subtle, this assertion, coupled with God wanting us to have life more abundantly (John 10: 10; King James Version), which was erroneously interpreted as the happy life, inadvertently degraded those experiencing the reality of being Christian, yet living with mental illness. </p>
<p>As a people who have historically held its faith in high regard, it has been especially challenging to effectively address mental illness within the African American community. Rather than being encouraged to participate in counseling or therapy with a qualified professional, African Americans have often been admonished to pray about their circumstances. As a result, many have asked themselves: Can I be saved and depressed? Can I be saved and have an anxiety disorder? Can I be saved and live with mental illness? </p>
<p>Through my personal growth process, I have realized that the answer to these questions is yes. If Christians can have cancer, diabetes, and hypertension, we can certainly have anxiety, depression, and a host of other mental illnesses. Moreover, while some experience the aforementioned maladies as a consequence of their choices (e.g., poor diet and limited exercise), others were born with these potentially debilitating diseases. The same holds true for mental illness: many are faced with managing the life-long course of a condition that stems from biological and genetic factors. And what about those who were victims of various types of abuse and trauma that affected their mental health? Regardless of what has led to your mental illness, be encouraged because you have been fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139: 14) in the image of God (Genesis 1: 27) and nothing—not even mental illness—can separate you from his love (Romans 8: 39). </p>
<p><span style="color:#f39c12;">SOCIETAL PERCEPTIONS OF WEAKNESS </span></p>
<p>Several years ago, I was working with a male high school student who was experiencing significant mental health difficulty. His father, however, felt strongly that his son’s condition was less serious than it was, and he instead needed to man up. For an impressionable adolescent who was particularly sensitive to his father’s acceptance and approval, effective treatment necessarily entailed reshaping the father’s perspective on mental health. Like this youngster, men (and women) who are living with mental illness need to know that they are not weak— a word that is almost always associated with negative connotations—but they’re human. </p>
<p>Unlike women, men are less likely to verbalize their feelings. Coupled with the fallacious thinking that mental illness is synonymous with, or even caused by weakness, this helps to explain why men don’t always seek the professional care that they need. For these reasons, it is incumbent upon churches and communities to create safe spaces in which men can express their innermost emotions. In the same manner that schools are often the point of access for a variety of services for children and families, it is more than appropriate for religious institutions to adopt a full service model and provide the much-needed supports to meet the spiritual, physical, social, emotional, and mental health needs of its parishioners and surrounding community. </p>
<p><span style="color:#f39c12;">MY GRACE IS SUFFICIENT </span> </p>
<p>Why me? Is God punishing me? Is my mental illness a consequence of sin? Why was I made this way? Why did God allow this to happen to me? Why doesn’t God take this away from me? For African American Christians living with mental illness, these are likely some of their most pressing questions. While I don’t have all of the answers to these questions, I find comfort and strength in 2 Corinthians 12: 7-10. </p>
<p>Written by the Apostle Paul, these verses juxtapose humanity with spiritual maturity. Although we do not know (and ultimately it’s not important) the specifics of Paul’s thorn in the flesh, we can be sure that it was inconvenient. Uncomfortable. Painful. It was a distraction designed to discourage Paul from fulfilling his purpose; and although he prayed, and prayed, and prayed for the Lord to remove this nuisance from him, the answer was no. But more importantly, the Lord’s response also included what He would do instead. Although I am not going to remove this difficult and seemingly impossible situation from you, my grace is sufficient—it’s enough—for you. Although you want this terrible thing to be taken away from you, what you really need is my grace—supernatural strength to endure. </p>
<p>Friends, have you considered that your mental illness could be your thorn in the flesh—something that the Lord will not remove, but whose grace is strong enough to sustain you? Like Paul, God doesn’t always take away our inconveniences because he is developing our Christian character (Galatians 5: 22-23). And as we are accomplishing great things for God, the thorn in the flesh reminds us that he is the one who chose us: not because we are perfect, but because he can use anyone because he is perfect.</p>Charles Barretttag:itsalwaysaboutthechildren.com,2005:Post/62841112020-04-16T07:43:26-04:002020-04-18T10:13:11-04:00TOO MUCH AT ONCE<p>Are you feeling overwhelmed? Guilty? That you’re not doing enough? Maybe you are doing too much at once (TMAO). Rest is the remedy. You deserve it. You need it. For those who receive my daily text messages,* you may have read this on Friday, April 11. Sent to encourage people, especially while we’re living through a global pandemic, this message was also meant to challenge unhealthy expectations, including those that are self-imposed, about being productive. And because we’re all susceptible to doing too much at once—becoming preoccupied with busyness at the expense of purpose—I’d like to share a few thoughts with you. </p>
<p><span style="color:#f39c12;">EVERYONE HAS A GIFT </span></p>
<p>One of the most rewarding aspects of my life is serving children as a school psychologist. Supporting students with a range of abilities, skills, and interests has taught me that every person has a gift—something that they do exceptionally well, almost naturally or innately. In light of this, here’s some encouragement: despite your grades in school, you have a gift. Despite what others say about you or expect from you, you have a gift. It could be drawing, painting, or perhaps singing or playing a musical instrument. Maybe it’s envisioning what can be and creating something amazing where nothing currently exists. Whatever it is—and even if you don’t know what it is—you have a gift and I encourage you to discover it (more about this later). </p>
<p><span style="color:#f39c12;">EVERYONE HAS A PURPOSE </span></p>
<p>Described by some as our why, purpose is the reason for something. It gives meaning and focus to what we do. In some ways, purpose is passion and fuels our actions. Personally, my purpose is to communicate (minister) hope and wholeness and I am driven by encouraging those whom I encounter. Despite how people are feeling and what they may be going through, it is my desire that an interaction with me gives them hope that better days are ahead and they grow closer to becoming whole. </p>
<p><span style="color:#f39c12;">EVERYONE HAS AN ASSIGNMENT </span></p>
<p>Whereas purpose is why, assignments are what we do in order to fulfill our purpose. In other words, I communicate hope and wholeness through writing, teaching, school psychology, and music. These activities are the vehicles by which my purpose is demonstrated in meaningful ways. </p>
<p>Although purpose and assignments are necessary, they are also very different. Most importantly, purpose (why) is greater than assignments (what). Said another way, assignments are temporary; but purpose is longstanding. For most of my life, I was very involved in music ministry. Whether playing for churches and singing groups, teaching choirs, or writing cantatas, this was how I conveyed hope and wholeness. But although music ministry is no longer my primary assignment, my purpose remains the same. In fact, after knowing our purpose, we must also recognize when we are evolving as individuals and our assignments are changing. </p>
<p><span style="color:#f39c12;">A RICH AND SATISFYING LIFE </span></p>
<p>These words are recorded in the 10th verse of John chapter 10: “…My purpose is to give them a rich and satisfying life.” Among other things, a rich and satisfying life is one that is lived on purpose and for purpose. Related to doing too much at once, more than the amount of work that we’re trying to accomplish, a rich and satisfying life includes being selective enough to only engage in things that are aligned with our purpose. </p>
<p>Although discovering our gifts, knowing our purpose, and accepting our assignments can unfold naturally through life experience, I also believe that spending quality time with God in quiet reflection can be helpful. To avoid doing too much at once, ponder these questions. First, what is my gift? Yes, we should hone our skills through diligent study and disciplined practice; but what do I do particularly well? What do I enjoy doing—especially without being paid or in the absence of an audience? What am I doing when I feel most alive? Next, what is my purpose? What am I passionate about? What brings me great joy and satisfaction? Last, what is my assignment? What should I be doing—in this moment—to fulfill my purpose? After considering the answers to these questions, I pray that we’ll have the courage to make critical decisions. Especially for things that we’ve done for a long time—despite how attractive or lucrative these opportunities may seem—let’s align our gifts, purpose, and assignments to avoid doing too much at once. </p>
<p>*To receive a daily, inspirational message, text WHOLE to 77948. Standard messaging and data rates apply.</p>Charles Barretttag:itsalwaysaboutthechildren.com,2005:Post/53174022018-06-25T22:22:11-04:002020-04-16T22:47:28-04:00I NEED YOU, AND YOU NEED ME TOO<p>In his writings to the Corinthian church, Paul provides explicit guidance about what should (and should not) happen when they assembled themselves together (I Corinthians 11; I Corinthians 14). But nestled between these passages is a section dedicated to spiritual gifts. Verse 7 of chapter 12 contains these critically important words: <em>A spiritual gift is given to each of us so we can help each other</em>. And before delineating the specific areas of [spiritual] gifting (vv. 8-10), Paul establishes that their ultimate purpose is to benefit others. Using the human body as a metaphor for the local church (vv.12-27), each part (member) is necessary for its health and optimal functioning. In looking closer, let’s consider why diversity is essential to every aspect of our lives. </p>
<p><span style="color:#f39c12;">THE NEED FOR INCLUSION </span></p>
<p>Public education has implemented different instructional models to support students with disabling conditions. Although placing children in restrictive settings away from their non-disabled peers was once common and acceptable, the ineffectiveness of exclusionary approaches has led to students with disabilities remaining with their typically developing peers to the greatest extent possible. </p>
<p>Inclusive practices reinforce the fundamental idea that everyone has value. Especially for young people with varied strengths and weaknesses, inclusion communicates that all students are important members of a classroom and school community. In fact, if children are going to develop into responsible citizens who will make meaningful contributions to an increasingly global society, not only must they be exposed to people who represent different ethnicities and socioeconomic backgrounds, but they must also be taught to respect the spectrum of difference that exists in religious beliefs, political perspectives, and cognitive abilities. Such exposure not only helps them realize that they need others, but that they are also needed by their peers. I’ve seen it in my own professional practice: when students with weaker social skills are given opportunities to regularly engage with their counterparts who are displaying more prosocial behaviors, guess what happens? They learn to share, take turns, and participate in reciprocal conversational exchanges. And for those who may not have weaker skills in these areas, guess what they’re learning? Patience. Self-control. They are becoming more accepting of individual differences. </p>
<p><span style="color:#f39c12;">OPERATING AS AN ORCHESTRA </span></p>
<p>Ultimately responsible for making music from all of the sounds emanating from voices, trumpets, trombones, baritones, saxophones, flutes, clarinets, and percussive instruments under their batons, conductors have intimate knowledge of what each instrument can do and how it contributes to creating something holistically beautiful. But more than what they know about each instrument and voice in their ensembles, conductors also have a deep understanding of the music that they are directing. While standing before their respective musical aggregations, conductors are intently focused on each part—especially the ones that are seemingly insignificant—because they, too, are critically important to the final product. </p>
<p>Yes, conductors have a great deal of responsibility; but musicians do as well. Coupled with developing their technical proficiency through consistent practice, musicians and vocalists must listen to those around them in order to make music. In fact, the following admonition is rather appropriate: <em>If you can’t hear your neighbor, you’re too loud!</em> A conversation between instruments and voices, music depends on individuals selflessly bending their ears and continuously adjusting what they are doing so that it fits with the other parts. Similar to young people working collaboratively with their peers, when musicians and vocalists listen to one another, not only are they learning to appreciate that everyone has a part to play, but the other parts help them sound even better. </p>
<p>Stay tuned… The next post encourages leaders to advocate for diversity in their respective organizations and individuals to embrace their gifting as necessary contributions to the greater good.</p>Charles Barretttag:itsalwaysaboutthechildren.com,2005:Post/50903042018-06-24T13:06:50-04:002023-10-16T10:49:03-04:00AND WHO IS MY NEIGHBOR: PERSPECTIVES ON THE OTHER AND THE INEFFECTIVENESS OF THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS <p><span style="color:null;">Of all his qualities, master teacher is one of Jesus’ most remarkable. But more than what he taught us, it was how Jesus communicated truth that made him the greatest teacher. When questioned by religious leaders (Luke 10: 25), rather than answering them directly, Jesus responded with queries of his own (v. 26). Additionally, he used short stories to clearly illustrate important principles. Through the parable of The Good Samaritan (vv. 30-37), let’s consider the following question: <em>And who is my neighbor </em>(v. 29)? </span></p>
<p><span style="color:#f39c12;">THE HYPOCRISY OF RELIGIOUS PEOPLE </span></p>
<p><span style="color:null;">Recorded in Luke 10: 30, a Jewish man was badly beaten and left to die on the side of the road. And rather than taking care of him, a priest and Levite ignored the wounded man (vv. 31-32). Whereas the priest c<em>rossed to the other side of the road and passed him by </em>(v. 31)<em>,</em> the Levite <em>walked over and looked at him… but he also passed by on the other side</em> (v. 32). Perhaps what is most damning about these verses is the hypocrisy of religious people. Seemingly satisfied with superficially talking about love as a conceptual ideal, they often fail to demonstrate the love of God. As depicted in the parable, religious people literally walk away from their brothers and sisters who desperately need their assistance. </span></p>
<p><span style="color:null;">In looking closer, these verses also show the intentionality of hypocritical behavior. Despite the man’s vulnerable condition, the priest and Levite deliberately overlooked him and continued on their way. Even today, how often do we respond in a similar fashion? How often do we avoid helping those who are homeless and hungry? How often do we attempt to justify our inaction by saying they will likely use our money to maintain their presumed addictions? Although we momentarily pause to acknowledge the plight of those who are without, we quickly move on because attending to their needs would be too inconvenient. </span></p>
<p><span style="color:#f39c12;">THE COMPASSION OF THE SAMARITAN </span></p>
<p><span style="color:null;">Although religious men ignored someone who was injured and hurting, a <em>despised Samaritan</em> (v. 33) responded appropriately. Have you considered why he is referred to as the Good Samaritan? Why isn’t he known as simply the Samaritan? While one plausible explanation is that Good Samaritan juxtaposes his compassion against the insensitivity of the priest and Levite, from a historical, social, cultural, and political perspective, Samaritans were regarded as less than Jewish people. In fact, Jesus’ dialogue with a woman was especially meaningful because he was not supposed to interact with Samaritans (John 4: 9). Because Samaritans were not expected to be good, the labeling of the man as such was not only offensive, but it reinforced negative perceptions of the other. Because of his cultural background, what the Samaritan did was exceptional and noteworthy. Today, it’s equivalent to comments about Black men and women being articulate when we don’t highlight this for White people. Drawing attention to diverse individuals when they demonstrate the same qualities as those from the majority culture exposes our implicit biases about various groups. Friends, there is nothing new under the sun: deficit thinking and microaggressions have existed since Biblical times. </span></p>
<p><span style="color:null;">The Samaritan—the one who was from a marginalized group and not expected to be good, or to do good—showed genuine love for a stranger at his own expense (Luke 10: 33-35). Moreover, his compassion was not for a fellow Samaritan, but someone who would likely overlook him if he was in a similar situation. </span></p>
<p><span style="color:#f39c12;">AND WHO IS MY NEIGHBOR? </span></p>
<p><span style="color:null;">This story was Jesus’ response to a question from an <em>expert in religious law</em> (v. 25) who wanted to <em>justify his actions</em> (v. 29). In other words, he wanted Jesus to say that it was okay to only love certain people because everyone wasn’t his neighbor. But through the parable, Jesus gently exposed his erroneous and convenient interpretation of The Law. Despite being from different walks of life, the wounded man and the Samaritan were neighbors. Despite not having a shared cultural heritage, these men were neighbors. Despite social and political constructions that divided them, they were neighbors. </span></p>
<p><span style="color:#f39c12;">THE INEFFECTIVENESS OF THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS </span></p>
<p><span style="color:null;">Tragically claiming the lives of 17 students and adults at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School in Parkland, Florida on February 14, the familiar phrase <em>in my thoughts and prayers</em> has returned to mainstream consciousness. And while those who use this cliché are likely sincere, what does it mean through the lens of Luke 10? Although the priest and Levite ignored the man, they weren’t completely callous and uncaring. To some degree, they were concerned about his well-being. And while their thoughts and prayers were important, they were also insufficient. </span></p>
<p><span style="color:null;">Like the dying man needed more than positive thoughts and passionate prayers, the young people who occupy our nation’s schools deserve better. As the Samaritan was convicted by a moral responsibility to love his neighbor as himself (Luke 10: 27) and convinced that he could do something to tangibly meet the man’s need, we must stand for what is right during this pivotal moment in our nation’s history. While there are myriad ideas about how to effectively address the gun violence epidemic, it is both alarming and disconcerting that we have done virtually nothing to change the disastrous policies, practices, laws, and loopholes that have killed more than one million people since 1968. Because we have the capacity to make decisions that will affect others, especially our children, more than thoughts and prayers, God expects us to act. </span></p>
<p><span style="color:null;">Be encouraged with these words from James 2: 14-18: <em>What good is it, dear brothers and sisters, if you say you have faith but don’t show it by your actions? Can that kind of faith save anyone? Suppose you see a brother or sister who has no food or clothing, and you say, Good-bye and have a good day; stay warm and eat well—but then you don’t give that person any food or clothing. What good does that do? So you see, faith by itself isn’t enough. Unless it produces good deeds, it is dead and useless. Now someone may argue, Some people have faith; others have good deeds. But I say, How can you show me your faith if you don’t have good deeds? I will show you my faith by my good deeds.</em></span></p>Charles Barretttag:itsalwaysaboutthechildren.com,2005:Post/50220712018-01-13T09:07:24-05:002021-09-07T16:31:08-04:00LEADERSHIP<p>Each industry studies ideas that are relevant to its success. Teachers, principals, and superintendents are invested in learning about the most effective instructional strategies to help young people. Philosophy asks questions about the meaning of life and love. While some topics are significant to certain fields, others are applicable to virtually all disciplines. Perhaps most notably, leadership has been examined from multiple viewpoints including business, education, and religion. </p>
<p>The following statement has been attributed to Charles Spearman (d. 1945), a British psychologist who contributed to the contemporary understanding of human cognitive ability: intelligence is a word with so many meanings that finally it has none. In other words, given the different conceptualizations of this somewhat nebulous construct, what do we really know about intelligence? In some respects, the same is true about leadership. While this blog does not fully capture what leadership is, I hope to offer some additional perspective on this concept. </p>
<p><span style="color:#f39c12;">AN ANALOGY FROM SPORTS: LEADERSHIP ADVANCES THE GAME </span></p>
<p>While many leaders are driven to succeed and solve the problems that are facing their organizations, leadership is not about winning. Unlike competitive sports, leadership is more than scoring a touchdown or being the first person to cross the finish line. </p>
<p>Through the lens of basketball, leadership is not limited to the person who makes the shot. Importantly, leadership also includes those that assist the player who ultimately scores. Whereas the shooting guard is responsible for making the basket, the point guard is a pivotal position that coordinates the team’s offense by ensuring the ball gets to the right player at the right time. In the same manner, leaders appreciate the big picture and strategically allocate resources (e.g., people, money, time) for the maximum benefit. Rather than being preoccupied with scoring, leadership focuses on playing whatever role is necessary to advance the game. </p>
<p><span style="color:#f39c12;">AN ANALOGY FROM RESEARCH: LEADERSHIP CONTRIBUTES ONE BRICK, BUT DOES NOT BUILD THE ENTIRE HOUSE </span></p>
<p>Metaphorically speaking, research is akin to building a house. Specifically, a single research study does not answer every question; it is not trying to build the entire house. Instead, quality research adds one brick to the structure. Like astute researchers, effective leaders understand what has already been accomplished in a particular area and what should happen next. What does the field need to know to grow in its understanding of a certain phenomenon? Which brick should be laid to continue building the house? In fact, if researchers and leaders do anything particularly well it’s not that they have all of the answers or solve every problem. More importantly, they ask the right questions to inform their next step. </p>
<p>Despite what we’ve heard about leadership, it is more than outcomes. Though important, leadership is more than getting the job done and turning dismal situations into successes. Never to be understated or overlooked, leadership is a process. Like a point guard on a basketball team, or a researcher who works diligently to uncover more information about a pressing problem, leadership is about moving a cause forward. </p>
<p>Friends, be encouraged. No pressure: we don’t have to do it all. No fear: we don’t have to know it all. Having been given the opportunity to serve, leadership is the ability to leave people, places, and situations better than we found them.</p>Charles Barrett